It’s January 5th. I’m back at work for my first “normal” week since mid-December. The decorations are down, the new stuff has been put away, the guests are gone, and the holiday menu checklists have been thrown away. As my mother would say, the “doldrums of winter” have begun.
Most people spend January acting frantic about their resolutions. Go to the gym no less than 3 times per week and for no less than 1 hour each time. Eat no more than 1.285 desserts per week. Eat no less than 6 pounds of celery per week. Blah blah blah. My resolution this year? Kick resolutions to the curb. In fact, I started the year by QUITTING the gym. How’s that for going against the grain?
Yes, there are absolutely things that I want to work on this year. Things that I need to improve upon in my personal life as a wife, mother, friend, sister, and daughter. But I don’t want to set unrealistic goals because I know these continuous improvements should be part of my everyday life, whether it’s January or July. I like the way that sounds actually –“continuous improvements” instead of “resolutions.” I didn’t wake up on January 1st with a big slap to the forehead and say “dammit, I think I’m going to be more patient with my toddler this year!” Who does that? Every day I strive to be more patient as he becomes more aggravating. Patience, for me at least, is a hard concept. I’m bitterly type-A, and have had to finally realize that there is often no room for reasoning with a 4 year old. Sometimes they’re just plain difficult.
And then there’s the health and fitness piece. I can picture what the gym (the one I just quit) looks like at 6 PM Monday through Thursday evenings, at least until about March. Once again, I didn’t wake up on the 1st and say “time to get healthy!!!” I’ve always known that I need to eat well and get exercise; we ALL know that. We just feel like January 1st is the right time to obsess about it because we spent the month between Thanksgiving and Christmas eating and drinking like slobs. There’s too much unnecessary pressure surrounding the “get healthy in the New Year” movement. Who’s really going to drop 15 pounds in the month of January? Most people can’t completely overhaul their diets and expect to stay the course for more than a month (hello Valentine’s Day chocolate!). So why set yourself up for failure? Continuous improvements…
So there you have it. For me there were no resolutions going into 2015. I need to try to be a better mother and a better wife because let’s face it, there’s always room for improvement in these roles. I need to continue cooking nice meals for my family and not feel bad when I call in a pizza from time to time. I need to get my money’s worth out of the new exercise equipment I bought (in lieu of keeping a gym membership) because no matter how hard I try, I’m just not a gym person. I’d rather work out at home in my ratty college t-shirt at 9:30 PM watching re-runs of Friends or Law & Order SVU. I’m a realist, not a resolution maker.
If you came up with a long list of resolutions for yourself, three cheers for you and I hope you get ‘em done. If things go awry, don’t beat yourself up… If you’re like me and have no interest in resolutions, enjoy your year of continuous improvement and the occasional slice of greasy pizza!